The rat who bites

This is the secret that has been kept from all of us... This is the root of the root and the heart and heart and the bud of the bud in this world...
This is what they never bother to tell you in school, or write in text books... Well they never told me, anyways...

"You don't always have to speak your mind"

I have taken it on myself to simply, let things slide. That my emotional state may not be necessarily the greatest emotional truth to myself. That perhaps irrationality comes with over exaggeration, so why indulge within it?
The bible, as irrelevant as it is to some concluded that the hardest thing to control in the name of God was the tongue, if not applied to God, but to life: Is this not a valid truth?

I have both served and received many slings and arrows of fellow men and women within weeks past, and rageful vengeance was all that called to me...
Like that cold, unwelcome sense of disappointment that flakes up into your stomach...

When your cat drags a rat into the house, only for you to discover it's still breathing, those deep, black eyes staring up at you in fear and desperation... You pick it up to save it from the grasp of your hungry little kitty, only for it to bite...
Sometimes; it seems, people tend to lash out at you when they themselves are consumed by fear, or hurt, or anguish... That friend and foe look so alike when you're blinded by your own self loathing and tears...
That many times you will try to help a friend, only to thus yourself be bitten by their wrath...

But with this understanding- taking the personal out of the situation, and putting the rational back in- we begin to understand that it isn't in fact an act specifically done to hurt you- but to hurt the only one they can try to blame at that point. So why overreact? So why get mad at the angry rat for biting when all he knows is it bite?

I submit to you a task to perform... Don't get mad... Don't get even. Just, let it go... Next time you get a dirty look from someone as you walk down the street or someone spills their drink on you; next time someone throws a heartfelt apology back in your face and then insults you-
Don't get mad or even... Just smile and know that it's only you that has the power to change your day; not anybody else... And know this without blame, or grudge or trial.
The other person acts out of irrationality, and poor judgement. You cannot blame a persons actions on anything but themselves but when they themselves are in terrible shape, things should be let go, forgotten and forgiven.

I found it so hard in the past to do this... But finally, I understand. A grudge only punishes the one who keeps it, and reaction only promotes another action and another reaction and so on it goes... Break the infinite loop that plagues us as morons.
Dare to hold your tongue.


HOWEVER:
The man who backbites an absent friend, nay, who does not stand up for him when another blames him, the man who angles for bursts of laughter and for the repute of a wit, who can invent what he never saw, who cannot keep a secret - that man is black at heart: mark and avoid him.

don't allow a bad friend, to be excused from their actions. Don't ask for more conflict, but know when it is you who is being taken advantage of.